This is not about you, i have not written it with you in mind. This is about my personal experience and opinions.
I don't normally feel the need for a disclaimer but the chakras involved have meant someone somewhere may use what I have written as an avoidance distraction...........
I have not written a blog for a fair while, I have wanted to but the symptoms of my health issues affect my focus and at times thinking. It's like there is two of me. The old ghost of me who loved to articulate and the now me who can see an explanation off in the distance but can't quite reach it. I have begun this blog with the knowledge that I may not be able to finish it but the clues as to the current energy challenge are so obvious I have to at least try to articulate what that means in the chakras.
Because I experienced abuse in my childhood I am predisposed to a vulnerability in my solar plexus. For me it showed up as sexual abuse but there are a number of ways a person can be and feel abused. Emotional, physical or sexual abuse all come back to power, the abuser wants it all to the detriment of the one being abused. For years I thought the sexual side was key but the chakras showed me it was the byproduct.
The other chakra that seems to need to be imbalanced in a case of any form of abuse would be the crown chakra, the reason being an imbalance there indicates avoidance of what is. If you want to see what that looks like in the modern world just look for the person with their phone attached to their hand despite the wonder of their surrounding. Last night as I played candy crush on my iPad, Winnie lay down on my lap , initially my game was too important but knowing chakras I kicked my own arse and reminded myself that I nearly did not have this ginger wonder, I had roamed the streets and woods with my cat basket in hand calling her name for a week because she had not come home, I'd be a silly arse now to choose the game over the attention she had chosen to give me. When our crown is imbalanced it's an indication that our priorities are getting lost in a sea of distractions and avoidance.
Abusers avoid the ugly truth of the affect their actions or inactions have on others. There is always an excuse or accusation thrown back when anyone dares to name what's going on.
James Redfield in the Celestine prophecy's describes it as an energy game, each person so caught up in gaining energy to feel better they fail to notice who's energy they are stealing in the process. It's often like a domino effect, the person drained by one situation ends up draining another, often unwittingly while attempting to feel better.
Abusers seem to be the only ones in the equation equipped to gain and regain energy with little or no effort. This is because of a thing called conditioning, which would also be found in the solar plexus and the crown.
Call an abuser out and they will escalate things to huge proportions, often to the point where the focus is shifted on calming the abuser down or appeasing them rather than remain focused on expressing and discussing the original issue raised.
Now for the painful bit, it's easy to notice the obvious forms of abuse but fail to see where our own insistence on avoiding the unavoidable can be a form of abuse towards others.
The truth often hurts but so does living a lie, if our choices only affect us we are within our rights to continue to bury our heads up our own arse, but as is often the case, our insisting on the terms of addressing avoidance, or attempting to condition others to only address what is comfortable for us no longer avoid, we are also abusing the emotional well being of others, in essence an abuser.
Avoiders abuse is the most common abuse, we all have someone in our life who is so emotionally crippled they end up crippling the emotions of those who come into contact with them.
I know my vulnerabilities in those two chakras, my potential to be triggered by old terms and conditions of previous abuse, I congratulate myself when I have managed to not get swept away by the avoidance in others. People get mad at me because I'm often the little kid in the crowd asking "why is the emperor naked?" While all around are allowing the emotional abuser insist on telling us what it is we should see. But it's my past abuse that keeps me asking those uncomfortable and awkward questions, because I know personally what abuse can do to the emotions of others.
Ask yourself, has avoiding facing what is really happening stopped it happening, made it better in any way, or has it just prolonged the pain for us and others.
The current energy seems to be highlighting our potential to be affected or affect while we ignore the health of those two chakras.
The fun boy 3 sang "the lunatics have taken over the asylum" and that's what it feels like when we live with any form of abuse.
The throat chakra needs a mention here as it is key to our recovery from abuse. After years of focusing on the emotional needs of our abusers our own feelings have become the least important. Turning the tide requires us reacquainting ourselves with our own feelings. The easiest way is to begin an internal dialogue with ourselves. Asking "how do I really feel about that?" And then waiting for the answer. Initially there will be a feeling of awkwardness, as it's no longer a natural connection. But with time and patience you will eventually hear your honest answer. It may feel more like a question at first but that is because you stopped listening so long ago you are not sure of what it is you really feel, don't mistake your thoughts for your feelings, they are very different. It's our thoughts (crown chakra) that tied us up in emotional knots.
Once we set the example of listening to our own feelings we invite others to do the same, but for as long as we do not value how we feel we cannot get upset with others who continue to override ours for the sake of theirs.