Firstly you have to come to terms with the fact that if an open root type gets under your skin you have a few root issues yourself LOL that was a difficult one for me to accept but I am getting there.
Open roots bring out the devil in me because I was surrounded by bullies in my childhood, some were physical bullies, some were verbal and others bullied through guilt or manipulation.
My natural way of dealing with a physical bully seems a little odd to those on the outside looking in but it seems to work for me. Although I am a pacifist by nature and refuse to use physical force to get my point across, I refuse to cower to their threats and give them my full permission to give me a slap if that's what they intend to do but it will change nothing, I will neither bow to them, shy away from them or do what they are demanding. OK I have had a few slaps in my time but most of the time the bully has fizzled and left me alone because they thrive on others fear. The verbal bully gets a mirror held up to them and it is all done with a massive dose of humour. I will often agree with the sweeping statements they make about me and then laugh my socks off. The guilt bully was harder to work out but I now either ignore their hints completely about how they have suffered or I tell them that I get the feeling that they would like me to be feeling a little guilt over their predicament LOL which usually has them scurrying in the other direction cos although they want you to feel guilty they have no wish to be open and honest about it. The manipulation bully is the most fun. With a little poking and prodding you can get to the bones of what they want and then do the opposite which usually has them throwing their toys out of the pram. I always know when I have flashed enough of their energy back at them because then they react with flattery or try very hard to befriend me or if I was cynical get me on side LOL
My way is in no way the right way for others, I am a nonconformist by nature so these reactions come naturally to me.
The important thing when dealing with any of those bully types is to understand that fear feeds their actions. Most are reacting like a child who has been starved of what they feel they need and have assumed the only way they will get it is by force. So if they want attention, they will insight a reaction by any means possible. You'll know it when you see and feel your own reaction to what they have written or said, this will be a knee jerk reaction and will be based on past conditioning/experiences. As it is their natural state they will automatically have the upper hand, so you'll need to think on your feet and be aware of your vulnerabilities. If you have a natural block in your root you need to ignore them completely and refuse to engage in any interaction. They will wipe the floor with you and enjoy it. Most bullies also have an open heart chakra so their thoughts are purely selfish, they want you to know or understand how they are affected but give no thought or interest in you so you'll be on a hiding to nothing.
If you are a peace keeper type you may fair better but like tigger you need to be aware of your own limitations. Again they are the instigators so have the upper hand already so unless you are able to detach from their words or baiting enough to stay calm and assertive it's best to just make your point and stick to it regardless of how they try to get you off track. If you are the maternal type you may be biting off more than you can chew with this one cos no matter how much patience and understanding you give them it will never be enough. If your clever with your words and have people easily sussed you may get some entertainment out of it but you will not get a lot of depth or substance while engaging in a discussion with them.
Bottom line is it will be a case of one step forward and two steps back in most cases as the change needs to come from within for it to have any lasting effect.
There have been lots of situations where there was a bully in my circle of friends or work place and people found it funny that they often either gave me a wide birth or wanted to be my new best friend.
I understand that we all have a true nature that regardless of all the attempts to remodel ourselves or try to be something we are not we will revert back to that nature when we are in a situation where we feel vounerable, threatened or completely relaxed. For me it makes sense to get to know your nature and work with it rather than constantly try to do things the way others would have you do it.
My nature and natural response is to avoid conforming so its lemon entry that when I am faced with someone who wishes to impose their will or mood on me I will resist. If your nature is to conform it is best that you avoid or accept the inevitable.
Open roots bring out the devil in me because I was surrounded by bullies in my childhood, some were physical bullies, some were verbal and others bullied through guilt or manipulation.
My natural way of dealing with a physical bully seems a little odd to those on the outside looking in but it seems to work for me. Although I am a pacifist by nature and refuse to use physical force to get my point across, I refuse to cower to their threats and give them my full permission to give me a slap if that's what they intend to do but it will change nothing, I will neither bow to them, shy away from them or do what they are demanding. OK I have had a few slaps in my time but most of the time the bully has fizzled and left me alone because they thrive on others fear. The verbal bully gets a mirror held up to them and it is all done with a massive dose of humour. I will often agree with the sweeping statements they make about me and then laugh my socks off. The guilt bully was harder to work out but I now either ignore their hints completely about how they have suffered or I tell them that I get the feeling that they would like me to be feeling a little guilt over their predicament LOL which usually has them scurrying in the other direction cos although they want you to feel guilty they have no wish to be open and honest about it. The manipulation bully is the most fun. With a little poking and prodding you can get to the bones of what they want and then do the opposite which usually has them throwing their toys out of the pram. I always know when I have flashed enough of their energy back at them because then they react with flattery or try very hard to befriend me or if I was cynical get me on side LOL
My way is in no way the right way for others, I am a nonconformist by nature so these reactions come naturally to me.
The important thing when dealing with any of those bully types is to understand that fear feeds their actions. Most are reacting like a child who has been starved of what they feel they need and have assumed the only way they will get it is by force. So if they want attention, they will insight a reaction by any means possible. You'll know it when you see and feel your own reaction to what they have written or said, this will be a knee jerk reaction and will be based on past conditioning/experiences. As it is their natural state they will automatically have the upper hand, so you'll need to think on your feet and be aware of your vulnerabilities. If you have a natural block in your root you need to ignore them completely and refuse to engage in any interaction. They will wipe the floor with you and enjoy it. Most bullies also have an open heart chakra so their thoughts are purely selfish, they want you to know or understand how they are affected but give no thought or interest in you so you'll be on a hiding to nothing.
If you are a peace keeper type you may fair better but like tigger you need to be aware of your own limitations. Again they are the instigators so have the upper hand already so unless you are able to detach from their words or baiting enough to stay calm and assertive it's best to just make your point and stick to it regardless of how they try to get you off track. If you are the maternal type you may be biting off more than you can chew with this one cos no matter how much patience and understanding you give them it will never be enough. If your clever with your words and have people easily sussed you may get some entertainment out of it but you will not get a lot of depth or substance while engaging in a discussion with them.
Bottom line is it will be a case of one step forward and two steps back in most cases as the change needs to come from within for it to have any lasting effect.
There have been lots of situations where there was a bully in my circle of friends or work place and people found it funny that they often either gave me a wide birth or wanted to be my new best friend.
I understand that we all have a true nature that regardless of all the attempts to remodel ourselves or try to be something we are not we will revert back to that nature when we are in a situation where we feel vounerable, threatened or completely relaxed. For me it makes sense to get to know your nature and work with it rather than constantly try to do things the way others would have you do it.
My nature and natural response is to avoid conforming so its lemon entry that when I am faced with someone who wishes to impose their will or mood on me I will resist. If your nature is to conform it is best that you avoid or accept the inevitable.