Now before I go any further I need to make it clear that what I am about to write is just my "personal" view based on my own experience and is not meant in any way to offend or dismiss the beliefs of others.
In my role as "agony aunt" I have come across statements like "but he's my soul mate" and the latest fad "twin flame" the last title had me a bit baffled so I have spent a lot of time reading all the meanings of a "twin flame" and by the end of it I was even more baffled. As the chakra nut I have studied the chakras of people who have used those titles and what I found was there was a potential in those types of relationships for both to get a better insight as to what it was like being in a relationship with themselves (this is where their chakras matched)
and insight as to what their opposite was like (this is where one partner was open and the other partners same chakra was blocked, both being imbalanced and both needing to learn and grow).
The problem I have found with the need to put such an important title on the relationship is in the danger one or both can put so much importance on that aspect of the union that they fail to see the cracks or dysfunction's
that can arise in the nitty gritty of the relationship. I have seen it so many times it has gone beyond a joke, where one partner in the belief that this is a "special" relationship has put up with disrespect and failed to put as much importance on themselves as individuals rather than all the importance being put on the union of the two.
Every relationship I have experienced and at times endured has been special in its own right and everyone offered an opportunity for me to learn and grow.
For me each partner has potential and has no need for a title to be attached and I think in the long run we do ourselves and our partners a disservice by the need to label it or put a special importance to it.
Why can’t it just be a relationship? Why can’t we just enjoy the relationship for as long as it lasts without the need to name and mould it?
I think we are tying ourselves up in knots and confusing the hell out of ourselves and the next generation. I have already heard teenagers declare that "this is the love of my life, my soul mate, my twin!" and its us so called grownups that have passed that little gem down to them. By the time they hit their late twenty's they will need a new and bigger word to out shine the last. Maybe it will be my triple twin flame or divine soul mate next, and then the next generation will find an even shinier label to outdo us old farts.
Why can’t we just Love someone and that be enough?
Looking back on my past relationships I know I have Loved them truly madly deeply at that time, but then we either grew apart or fell out of love and after a while we fell in love with someone else, to me that's life and love and that cycle will continue long after my bones are in the ground.
Why does love get complicated? Because we make it that way!