My aunty wanted to be my "go to person", the one I confided in so much so that she found herself point out my mum and dads failings and how they couldn't possibly understand me. It has taken years to undo the mistrust I developed towards my parents because I believed her take on their view of me, but thankfully I have come full circle, but I know plenty who have not.
When someone does not notice how bitter, insecure and competitive they are, they are unlikely to notice the potential harm they can cause others by the words they use and view they hold and share.
I wrestled with myself, worried that my old wounds were distorting my view, the lady in question did the opposite and sat smugly in her ivory tower never once doubting her view, even when alternatives with a little more heart and understanding were offered.
I could feel her anger towards me when I showed as much compassion for the one she seen as bad as the one she had seen as good.
I have learnt enough about the chakras to know that to be affected by the energy of others we have the potential to also be affecting those others.
Whether our chakras are wide open or blocked we are influencing the energy of others. Attempting to stay balanced within this situation was hard going, her inner chaos could put me in a tailspin, to the point where I no longer wanted to be in her company. But I know I have to learn from this or even if I do manage to avoid her I will be drawn to that chaos in others.
I decided to try to set the example and trust that despite her resistance she might learn that empowering others creates a much nicer feeling than competing with them. Her need to be the go to person in the unfolding situation drove her to ignore all reason and common sense.
The situation we were both caught up in came to a head, she leaked a little meanness towards the one she deemed bad, but this just made me more determined to try to be fair to both involved. Emotional immaturity was the issue in the situation and instead of empowering them to grow she was joining in, trust me that is easier than you think to do, especially if there is any baggage in your back chakras.
Knowing that my aunty baggage could contaminate the situation I remained mindful, my aunty is a sad figure who looked out all the while and forgot that the only way to really make ourselves feel better is to look in. She was my teacher, and the lesson was invaluable, nobody can ever impose their view of another on me because my aunty inadvertently taught me how harmful that could be, so now I take the time to see for myself who a person is rather than take anothers word for it.
How easy is it to become so caught up in the game of right and wrong that we forget we will always have the potential to be both, listening to the lady in question I cringed because I heard old views I once held and remember how right I thought I was back then, this helped me to retain compassion for her despite the discomfort I feel when in her company.
"There but for the grace of God go I" is my mantra when I see someone with their head up their arse, I could be as ignorant, as heartless as cutting and cruel as them if life had not already taught me that particular lesson, but I also remember there are still a shed load of lessons I am yet to learn.
For the last few days I have noticed not just heart chakra energy but heart and small intestine meridian energy intertwined in every unfolding situation I have witnessed. What that tells me is the current energy is offering us the opportunity to look at things differently, the small intestine is linked to our interpretation of what it is we see, experience, feel and think. The energy of the root chakra has also shown up in the unfolding situations, mainly in the guise of the greedy git or victim mentality. Both fit with the root chakra, the victim's root chakra would be blocked, which would mean they don't look after themselves, be it, the basics of eat, rest and exercise, or also their mentality will be that life and shit happens to them and more importantly, there is nothing that they can do to improve their lot. So you can see how a swing or opportunity in the small intestine and its partner the heart meridian could help to improve a victim's perception, but also the greedy git. Those poor sods never get to truly enjoy what it is they have because something within them continues to strive for more, more more. Wherever their focus is they cannot get enough. It depends on which chakras are driving their greed as to how the greedy git shows in them, the clue will be the air of dissatisfaction, regardless of how fortunate they really are and their root chakra will be wide open. I know some teach that an open chakra is a good thing, but what they call open I would call balanced, excess either way is harmful to ourselves and those we interact with.
Going back to the lady triggering my distress, I know she is there to help me to learn something that will empower me, I know that to feel such discomfort is an indication that a valuable lesson is on offer. I get to hone my skills as I calmly chose my own view rather than allow her to influence my view. Strangely, the person she declared to be all wrong and the bad guy shares her chakra pattern, so for as long as she focuses on disliking and blaming them she continues to also harm herself on an energy level.
I know not to judge her, or get in the way of a lesson she seems to need to learn, I also know not to create further lessons for myself by taking on her perception of life and those she shares it with.