The book I have been reading in-between being a domestic goddess and a chakra nut made me think of the story and how often we play the roles of the main characters.
My chakra nut head went into overdrive and I could see the chakras that would be involved. Madam Medusa fits with an imbalanced root, Little penny fits with an imbalanced sacral and the Rescuers fit with an imbalanced solar plexus. To be honest all the foundation chakras would be involved with each character but the lead chakra would be different for each of them.
Looking at many of the story's told to us from childhood upwards there is a victim or potential victim, there is a bully and there is a rescuer. Most of us can identify with one of those roles but the truth is if we are playing one of those roles we have played all three.
When I am trying to figure something out I often share it with Kate on one of our debrief walks with Darcy. After talking to her about my theory we both got into the habit of naming the energy of our current "drama" and which role we were unconsciously playing and which role we had projected onto someone else. It smarted a little when I had to admit to my own role but it was a real eye opener and has helped me to apply the breaks a few times and step back from either seeing myself as the victim, be accused of being the bully or riding to the rescue of someone else who was caught up in a drama that involved those three key roles.
The archetypes of those three are ingrained in us from an early age so it is easy to fall into the trap of thinking and acting like one or all of them.
Once I had managed to deactivate my own knee jerk reaction to those roles (its not easy and it takes very little to get drawn back in, believe me) I began to notice the roles in others and how some were swinging through all three roles and some were stuck on one setting.
Kate and I have laughed at each-other when we slip back into the old story, which has helped us to snap out of the role we had unconsciously picked.
When we see ourselves or others as victims we are stuck in an old story, when we accuse others or are accused of being a bully, we are stuck in an old story. When we ride to the rescue or want others to rescue us, we are stuck in an old story.
After years of watching chakras I have come to accept that there is always a reason and lesson behind why we are drawn to certain energy's and experiences. When we choose one of the above roles it is impossible to learn and grow from that experience so we will repeat the pattern, and either take the same role or play one of the other roles until we learn to step out of all the roles and take responsibility for the current drama unfolding in our worlds.
I can look back on my life and admit to playing all three roles at different times, and over this week I have gone through all the dramas that stand out and see which role I played. In some situations I played all three and different times and despite my ability to see those roles in others I was unable (at the time) to see my own role.
Watching the chakras and meridians has been interesting and the clues have come thick and fast as to the underlying energy. The roles we have unconsciously played throughout our lives are the things we need to admit to ourselves and let go of them once and for all.
I have gone out of my way to notice these roles in books, kids story's, soap opera's, Hollywood movies and situations in the media and every time those three were there and were the roles people seemed to focus on. The other thing I noticed was how someones story can trigger a reaction in others where they buy into the story and opt to play one of the other roles.
Healers are rescuers by nature, but to remain rescuers they need to see others as either the victim or the bully. For the victim to stay in their role others need to either play the role of a rescuer or a bully. For someone to be put in the role of the bully others have to play the role of the victim or the rescuer, its an eternal triangle that leaves all involved trapped.
Being able to spot the roles and opt to step out of them will help you to change your story where everyone who turns up in your life is there to assist you in your adventure and create the rites of passage needed for you to continue to learn, grow and evolve on firm foundations.