I wanted to hear what she was saying, I so badly wanted for just that moment we were sharing to be the only thing taking up space in my heart and mind . But sadly, ongoing situations still unresolved were drowning out any fun we could of been having. I had noticed this phenomenon (do do du do do) in others, where they drift off or you know you have only half their attention. Their answers bare no resemblance to your question, or they just agree with everything you say or repeat it. You know they are not there in the moment and assume that they don't really want to be, but this morning I know I did want to engage with kate fully sadly I seem to be preoccupied with a problem I can see no way to resolve.
I have mini moments where I explain my part and feel hopeful that that is that but those moments don't seem to last because the other person involved is also preoccupied so only half in and half somewhere else.
Now that I am aware of the other side of this phenomenon (do do du do do) I can focus on keeping my mind clear of the distractions of things I can't resolve on my own and will not take it personally when I find myself in a conversation with someone who is clearly preoccupied with something or someone else. Most of us don't want to be preoccupied, most of us would love to just be in the moment we are in, enjoying the company we are with. Thinking about the current rather than the old, worn out and unresolved issues of yesterday.
One of the current issues for me has been the feeling that I'm not heard or understood, crossed wires and blurred lines at every turn, and I could not understand why nothing seemed to ever be resolved despite my valiant effort to resolved things. As I sat trying to hear Kate talk this morning while my poor head tried to sort through the unresolved still hanging over my head I gained a better understanding as to how easy it is for someone to appear disinterested when in truth they may just be too distracted by something else that has taken up all their time and head space.
The solar plexus would have to be in the mix because juggling comes into it, as would the throat and third eye because expression and perception is a tad squiffy when ever we can't be fully in the moment.
We can't change how others are when preoccupied but we can decide to not just follow suit and become preoccupied with them and their preoccupations.
Thanks to noticing the flip side of a current situation and observation I now know that not being heard is nothing to do with me or what it is I am saying, and more to do with those who are too preoccupied to be in the moment with me.