I wrote this a few years back when I was working on my own sacral and while the lesson was still fresh in my mind.
Love that is experienced in the sacral is full of drama, guilt and blame.
One or both partners refuse to take responsibility for the state of the
relationship.
One partner (blocked sacral) will make sacrifices for the sake of the
relationship, while the other will expect their partner to constantly prove their
love by accepting and understanding their behaviour. This is the kind of
relationship that teenagers have, but sadly can be seen in adult relationships
all too often. Mothers who are used to putting their children’s needs before
their own can fall in to the trap of doing the same with their partner. It is
not always women that are the one’s willing to make all the sacrifices for their
relationships, men with a block in their sacral are often drawn to women who are
addicted to drama, sex and relationships. The problem with the open sacral types
is they are never willing to stay and learn from their mistakes and grow with
their partner. They will instead leave and rush into another relationship,
addicted to the early stages of a relationship with all the passion and
excitement, but once that comes to an end they repeat the pattern and
find a new partner.
The blocked sacral often accept bad behaviour from their
partner because of a belief that sacrifice is part and parcel of life, they give
in the hope that one day they will receive the love and gratitude of their
partner. Sadly, this rarely happens, once the partner grows emotionally, they
often leave the partner who loved and supported them unconditionally.
I have often worked with men and women who were in their early 40’s, who after
suppressing their own needs and feelings for years, kick off and act out of
character but also a need to be themselves. If we hold our feelings and needs
for years in order to keep a partner happy, we will eventually explode and
possibly devastate our families.
We cannot blame the partner who we made the sacrifice for, or the children, we have
to accept that we did it to ourselves because of our own beliefs and
choice’s.
I was a blocked sacral, and often had relationships and friendships with open
sacral types.
Love that is experienced in the sacral is full of drama, guilt and blame.
One or both partners refuse to take responsibility for the state of the
relationship.
One partner (blocked sacral) will make sacrifices for the sake of the
relationship, while the other will expect their partner to constantly prove their
love by accepting and understanding their behaviour. This is the kind of
relationship that teenagers have, but sadly can be seen in adult relationships
all too often. Mothers who are used to putting their children’s needs before
their own can fall in to the trap of doing the same with their partner. It is
not always women that are the one’s willing to make all the sacrifices for their
relationships, men with a block in their sacral are often drawn to women who are
addicted to drama, sex and relationships. The problem with the open sacral types
is they are never willing to stay and learn from their mistakes and grow with
their partner. They will instead leave and rush into another relationship,
addicted to the early stages of a relationship with all the passion and
excitement, but once that comes to an end they repeat the pattern and
find a new partner.
The blocked sacral often accept bad behaviour from their
partner because of a belief that sacrifice is part and parcel of life, they give
in the hope that one day they will receive the love and gratitude of their
partner. Sadly, this rarely happens, once the partner grows emotionally, they
often leave the partner who loved and supported them unconditionally.
I have often worked with men and women who were in their early 40’s, who after
suppressing their own needs and feelings for years, kick off and act out of
character but also a need to be themselves. If we hold our feelings and needs
for years in order to keep a partner happy, we will eventually explode and
possibly devastate our families.
We cannot blame the partner who we made the sacrifice for, or the children, we have
to accept that we did it to ourselves because of our own beliefs and
choice’s.
I was a blocked sacral, and often had relationships and friendships with open
sacral types.