In many of our friendships, relationships and even relationships we have with family members our differences seem to stand in the way of us getting on and accepting the other fully.
I have had some interesting conversations with people lately where despite liking or even loving someone something keeps getting in the way. Automatically when friends share their opinion the other person must be some how wrong or bad but I disagree. When you look at them through the chakras it makes total sense that there will be as big a clash as there is an attraction. A close friend who went through a messy divorce and then a drama fuelled relationship that ended up costing him a fair bit of money just rang and asked me to check the chakras of a lady who has asked him out on a date. I nearly fell over when I seen the same pattern in his new love interest as was in both his ex wife and last girlfriend. Now the thing that did not surprise me was he was drawn into a similar type of energy yet again, the familiarity in his chakras and all the ladies involved was what drew him to them. but the clash would come because of the chakras where they were opposite. I love my friend and accept him as he is but know all to well that his open root and blocked sacral and heart make him a people pleaser and with his solar plexus and hands being blocked he'll naturally stay quiet to keep the peace and second guess what the other wants to his own detriment. The truth is he'll keep repeating this pattern till he learns to be more balanced in all of his chakras. We had a bit of a chat about where he needed to pay attention to his weakness and where he needed to face his own energy in others LOL but as his throat is open and third eye blocked I know all too well that he's likely to ignore common sense and dive in and get burnt again.
Every woman he has been involved with in the 16 + years I have known him has loved the idea of him but found that the day to day reality of him hard going. What they have ended up doing is parent him, and this in turn has helped his sacral to swing from blocked to open and the more they parent him the more he reacts like a rebellious teen. This creates a lot of drama and stress for all involved. In the beginning he lets things slide (via his blocked solar plexus) giving his partners the impression that what they are doing and how they are treating him is ok , but then when he has had a belly full he pulls the rug from underneath them and finally tells them how unhappy their nit picking and parenting ways have made him. This has befuddled the partners because there was no warning and by that time they are in the habit of saying and doing what they like so its hard for them to begin to relate to him differently. His Ex girlfriend is lovely and I consider her a good friend but she is different with me than she is with him. This again is down to chakras LOL I speak up the instant that someone tries to parent me so she found out early that I had boundaries that were not that easy to cross where as my friend seems to have a welcome mat where his boundary line should be.
It has been a bit painful to watch their relationship fall apart because it bore a similarity to a past relationship where I parented my then partner and it was only through watching my friend and how parenting a partner was detrimental to a relationship that I faced how wrong I was in the past.
Now my theory on these sort of relationships is that regardless of the attraction and how much we claim to love someone, if we can't accept them without the need to parent them we should just accept that it’s a case of square peg round hole and the more we try to force it to fit the more unhappy we make ourselves and others.
I have friendships that are similar, where they see my potential to be the friend they want but feel the need to tweak me a little just so I fit a bit better LOL and eventually they either make one too many demands on me and I walk away or they learn to accept me as I am and they get to keep me. You see I am similar to my friend with all the broken relationships, maybe that's why we get on. I used to allow others to squeeze me into the hole they needed me to fit into and rarely spoke up until the damage was done and I was ready to walk but between my last relationships (which was very karmic and showed me what it was like to be in a relationship with my energy) and watching my friends love life I have learnt that it’s not that the other person is wrong, bad or immature, what is really happening is we just don't fit, there is no bad guy or victim just a miss match of energy's and it took both to get it to that point. If we don't speak up when we need to or we refuse to hear what the other is saying while trying to squeeze them to fit our expectations we are on a hiding to nothing and our imbalanced energy will invite the worst from our partner rather than the best.
I have had some interesting conversations with people lately where despite liking or even loving someone something keeps getting in the way. Automatically when friends share their opinion the other person must be some how wrong or bad but I disagree. When you look at them through the chakras it makes total sense that there will be as big a clash as there is an attraction. A close friend who went through a messy divorce and then a drama fuelled relationship that ended up costing him a fair bit of money just rang and asked me to check the chakras of a lady who has asked him out on a date. I nearly fell over when I seen the same pattern in his new love interest as was in both his ex wife and last girlfriend. Now the thing that did not surprise me was he was drawn into a similar type of energy yet again, the familiarity in his chakras and all the ladies involved was what drew him to them. but the clash would come because of the chakras where they were opposite. I love my friend and accept him as he is but know all to well that his open root and blocked sacral and heart make him a people pleaser and with his solar plexus and hands being blocked he'll naturally stay quiet to keep the peace and second guess what the other wants to his own detriment. The truth is he'll keep repeating this pattern till he learns to be more balanced in all of his chakras. We had a bit of a chat about where he needed to pay attention to his weakness and where he needed to face his own energy in others LOL but as his throat is open and third eye blocked I know all too well that he's likely to ignore common sense and dive in and get burnt again.
Every woman he has been involved with in the 16 + years I have known him has loved the idea of him but found that the day to day reality of him hard going. What they have ended up doing is parent him, and this in turn has helped his sacral to swing from blocked to open and the more they parent him the more he reacts like a rebellious teen. This creates a lot of drama and stress for all involved. In the beginning he lets things slide (via his blocked solar plexus) giving his partners the impression that what they are doing and how they are treating him is ok , but then when he has had a belly full he pulls the rug from underneath them and finally tells them how unhappy their nit picking and parenting ways have made him. This has befuddled the partners because there was no warning and by that time they are in the habit of saying and doing what they like so its hard for them to begin to relate to him differently. His Ex girlfriend is lovely and I consider her a good friend but she is different with me than she is with him. This again is down to chakras LOL I speak up the instant that someone tries to parent me so she found out early that I had boundaries that were not that easy to cross where as my friend seems to have a welcome mat where his boundary line should be.
It has been a bit painful to watch their relationship fall apart because it bore a similarity to a past relationship where I parented my then partner and it was only through watching my friend and how parenting a partner was detrimental to a relationship that I faced how wrong I was in the past.
Now my theory on these sort of relationships is that regardless of the attraction and how much we claim to love someone, if we can't accept them without the need to parent them we should just accept that it’s a case of square peg round hole and the more we try to force it to fit the more unhappy we make ourselves and others.
I have friendships that are similar, where they see my potential to be the friend they want but feel the need to tweak me a little just so I fit a bit better LOL and eventually they either make one too many demands on me and I walk away or they learn to accept me as I am and they get to keep me. You see I am similar to my friend with all the broken relationships, maybe that's why we get on. I used to allow others to squeeze me into the hole they needed me to fit into and rarely spoke up until the damage was done and I was ready to walk but between my last relationships (which was very karmic and showed me what it was like to be in a relationship with my energy) and watching my friends love life I have learnt that it’s not that the other person is wrong, bad or immature, what is really happening is we just don't fit, there is no bad guy or victim just a miss match of energy's and it took both to get it to that point. If we don't speak up when we need to or we refuse to hear what the other is saying while trying to squeeze them to fit our expectations we are on a hiding to nothing and our imbalanced energy will invite the worst from our partner rather than the best.